These photos were taken after mother's day. Remember when I said I wanted a new diaper bag in this post? Well, Jordan actually ordered it before I even posted that. My good man saw me looking at it and decided to get it for me for Mother's Day. 

On this day we were headed out to grab a quick dinner and I had Jordan snap these photos. I'm not wearing any makeup, didn't do my hair, other than pinning it out of my face, but I am wearing the pretty blouse I bought on Mother's day (that post here), my new bag, and sporting my cute babe on my hip. So, I felt great. 

We have sooo many hostas in our yard. And they're the best. 

I have some thoughts on making routines and habits to share with you today. And I am just going to start out saying that this is coming from the person who just doesn't get routines and has a hard time doing the same thing twice.
I've been working really hard this year on forming habits and routines in a way that works for me. I'm obviously not an expert, but wanted to share these 5 steps that worked for me.

I've been thinking about habits and routine a lot this year. I can't believe that we are already half way into 2016. It has been a very busy year for us and something that has helped me is to make different habits and routines. I think I mentioned earlier this year, but one of my goals is to be a little more like my husband. I need a little more efficiency and focus in my life.
I've managed to form some new healthy habits this year, by being a little creative in how I approach them. And my favorite habit that I have formed this year, by far, is this blog.
I went from blogging very inconsistently and even taking a year break to posting several times each week. And for this ENFP, that's a very big deal.

Because, I despise routine. Like, I am the person that would switch up my alarm because I couldn't stand waking up at the same time every morning. Or go a different route. It would also make me cringe a little to get the same shampoo twice. 

And, I have come a long way folks!

I'm now finding freedom in some of my daily routines and habits. But, I am calling it that for your sake. To get this far I've had to trick myself and not look at it as routine or creating habits.

Instead of focusing on the mundane, daily grind, I started to look at the bigger picture. Where could I find more freedom in my life by simplifying a task or make more room for things I enjoy? Or making it so engrained in my day-to-day, or dare-i-say, routine? that I hardly notice that I've picked up a new habit. Because it's just a part of my life.
I can't say that I have fully mastered habit forming, but blogging consistently was the one of the habits I really wanted to form this year and here I am still going strong! So, in case your sort of a hot mess like me, I thought I would share the process I walked through to get here. 

Today, as I sat down at my computer like I typically do as Ruby goes down for her morning nap, I really didn't want to write a blog post. See, I gave myself a little break this past week, because it was a 'holiday' but, it was hard. So, I'm already feeling a little out of "routine". But, here I am pressing on, because it's what I do, this is now a part of my day.
And actually, today was just was just what I needed to confirm that this is a habit. And it's a good one that I hope to continue to keep up.

This is my jam. Think big picture. I love dreaming big and coming up with creative ideas, this is where my ENFP personality truly shines. When I decided to start blogging again, I wanted more from it than just sharing snapshots every once in a while. So, I started out with dreaming about whatI wanted my blog to look like, what I wanted it to be. 

Go all out. The Sky is the limits, what are your big dreams? 

Now, this is where it starts to get hard for me. If I could live with my head in the clouds, I for sure would. I always tell people, I wish they new my good intentions, or the great ideas I have, because they typically just stay in my head. I want to be better about living out some of these ideas and dreams that I have. And that involves a little dose of reality. 

Start to reel it in a little and think in more realistic terms.
For me, this was realizing what I can do, right now. I wanted to completely redesign my blog, make it look beautiful, switch to wordpress, write more posts like this, all on top of editing my pile of family photos and posting them here. But, really, the heart of what i wanted to do was to just share. To be creative and to connect.

Visualize how you're going to make these ideas and goals into something that you can do on the daily. How is it going to fit into your life? Where's that time coming from?
For me, this happened to be an easy one. Around the time I started blogging again, Ruby started to finally nap well. She started to consistently take a two hour nap twice a day. So, after she went down for her morning nap, I would use that time to work on my blog. Either editing photos, or writing a post.
I wanted to set a goal to post every day of the week. That seemed very doable with Ruby's schedule and I was really determined to get to work on a lot of photos that I wanted to edit and share.
It's very helpful to associate your new habit with an already formed habit. For me, this was working on my blog after I put Ruby down. They seem to go hand and hand now, along with coffee, of course.

So, now that you've visualized how your habit will occupy your daily life, make it even more attainable. For me, it was switching from every day, to creating 16 blog posts a month. Which would make about 4 posts a week, and it would even leave a little room if I wasn't able to post 4 times one week.
My original vision was to post every day and that's the habit I wanted to form, so I still strive for that. However, I never feel defeated if I miss a day, because I look at the bigger picture and then make up for it later in the week to stay on target for the month.
Forming a new habit is hard, so it's important to leave a little room to fail. I would have totally given up if I tried to do this every. single. day. So, easing up a little enables you to actually form a habit and do it well, or even better!
And keep in my mind that habits and routines come from doing something regularly, so it's important to be consistent.
I could probably make another step, but part of this and visualizing your habit is to actually put it into practice. But this is obvious, right? Right??

So, here's the part that I just realized today.
I have been working on this post and it has been filed away as a draft for a while now. I knew it wasn't quite complete and was still missing something. Or rather, I wasn't sure that I had actually formed a habit.
So, it was today, as I mentioned earlier, was the first day that I really didn't want to blog. "Why am I even doing this?" I asked myself. And then, that's when I needed to repeat through the steps I shared above.
Today I reminded myself that I want to share our story, that I want to get out my thoughts, create a community, and to share the photos I've taken. Sometimes that looks like taking a break from editing your daughters first birthday photos because they're all green and not perfect like you want them to be. Maybe it's cutting yourself a little slack when your husband works long, long days, and that means you work long, long days.
But, then I need to make room, to do these tasks, to create new content, because even thought right now. in this moment, writing this post is not what I want to be doing, I know that it will make it easier tomorrow, and then maybe I'll have the energy to edit those green tinted first birthday photos.
And now, that I am wrapping up this post, I am so glad that I took the time. It was just what I needed, to be a little creative, to communicate my thoughts, and to not spend my time doing 'nothing'.
Here's the fact. Forming good habits can be hard, it's important to keep working through, and when you start to thinking just about the moment, cycle back through these steps, and remind yourself of your dreams.



What do you think? & I would love to hear, what steps do you take to form habits?

Mama and her BFFS